I’ve lost count of how many women I’ve spoken to that struggle with self worth - and that struggle often goes hand in hand with people pleasing. But how do you know if you even are people pleasing, when so many of us don’t have a clue? We think we are just being kind, or just being a good person by putting others first. We’re just being helpful, and what is wrong with that? Well, nothing, if that’s all it is. But when it goes beyond that, it leads to low self-esteem, stress, having zero energy and even anxiety and depression as you push your real feelings down into your shadow. If any of these resonate, you could be in people pleaser territory:

How often do you climb into bed, exhausted after a long day of work, desperate for sleep because you have that presentation tomorrow - only to lie awake ruminating on all the ways you could have spoken up that day?